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Monday, 3 July 2017

Chances

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You deserve better than that” - I used to say, to anyone who opens up to me about the problems they face in their relationships, whether its about honesty, loyalty, commitment you name it. But that's the thing, my best friend and I both agreed that it's so easy to make decisions when you're not the one facing the problem first hand. It's difficult when you're in that situation because it's not as simple as it sounds when someone says "why can't you just leave ?". They don't know the emotional attachment and sentiments you have towards the other person and the relationship. So you give the person who hurt you a second chance.. and a third.. and a fourth.. and a fifth. 

How many chances would it take for you to give to be considered naive for staying ? There is no definite answer. And I guess that's what it means to have unconditional love for another person. You give and you give and you give, even when you weren't or you're not getting what you want in return. This can also be reflected upon different kinds of love too, how a mother forgives and loves her child no matter how much they break her heart, how Allah gives, and gives, and gives you all the rezeki to you despite you not doing enough for Him. 

Back to the relationship context of things, never take those who give us second chances for granted. We need to understand how hard it is for them to move on and to overlook the mistakes that have been made, to mend the heart that’s already broken, to live everyday after that trying to accept that past is past, to be brave enough to trust again even when they’re scarred and scared, to strengthen themselves so their fears and doubts don't get the best of them, to always believe in the good despite everything that has happened. 

It takes a lot for someone to be able to give out second chances. 

And if you're one of those people who give, you're so strong and you deserve all the love in the world. x



14 comments:

  1. Beautifully written, Izza. This is what exactly crossing my mind right now.

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    1. Thank youu. I hope you're okay ! x

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  2. a very fruitful thoughts, worth a read. I love your writing very much!! Do u mind sharing some tips on how to write like you 😢

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    1. Thank you, Anis ! My writing is actually nothing special pun but what I can suggest you do is to read more English books, it'll definitely help you write better and learn how to use different words together :)

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  3. this is beautifully written 💗 i want to be a good writer just like you Izza!! you are my inspiration 💗

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    1. Thank you Areeana ! Haha I'm actually very average when it comes to writing but still very humbled to know that I inspire you, thank you for reading <3

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  4. This is a very very good post Izza. Knowing the fact that I've been through in this situation made me realize how I am so proud of myself that I can actually went passed it. One thing I would like to share is that the process of moving on is never easy. It takes a lot for a person to put everything behind. What I did when I went through all these is just give myself time. It is really painful though. But trust me, it will made you even stronger than you ever know.

    - Hannah

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    1. Hi Hannah, I must've missed your comment so I'm sorry for the delayed reply, but I'm glad you're able to relate to this. Mhmm, I totally agree with you ! Thank you for reading xx

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  5. Izza i'm in dilemma whether to continue my degree in sept or feb next year because my dip will end by earlier sept and i'll only have 2 weeks of break. Ughhhh because the students will get rm5000 of scholarship if they register on this thursday and might not have the same promotion again in feb next year.most of my friends had already submitted their progression form. Oh my god stresssss

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    1. Do what you think is best for you ! If you think you need more break than 2 weeks, then don't continue in September. Plus you'll have time to earn money, or just relax and have fun before you start your degree. But if you want to finish your degree quick, then just continue in September. RM5000 is a pretty big amount too. I personally kind of regret starting too early because if I could I'd take a break and either work or chill for a few months and then start again haha.

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  6. Izza, random question but do you have any suggestions on gifts to give to my boyfriend of 1 month? �� His birthday is next month but I'm still very clueless because he has everything- watches, shoes, clothes, you name it. So yeah... very clueless...

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    1. Oooh just take him out for a nice meal ! Or, get a box and fill it up with small things that he likes ; favourite candy, or nice socks, things like that. Perfumes are nice toooo.

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  7. Izza, mind sharing your study timetable?

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    1. I'm the kind of person who only studies for exams last minute ! D: But I think that works for me because I feel like the more I panic, the more I study properly haha.

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