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Tuesday, 3 November 2015

Superficial


Situation A  

Friend : This is my friend Izza, she's my ______ . 

Friend of my friend : Oh hi, you're the one with __ thousand followers on Instagram right ? 

Me : Uh.. yeah. 

Situation A has happened to me at least 10 times. It usually happens when I'm introduced to somebody new and they would say something along the lines of 'I've stalked you on Instagram and you have a lot of people following you' well of course not exactly that, but close. I don't know if they mean it as a compliment or anything but to be honest, it catches me off guard every. single. time. because a) is that all you care about, someone's followers ? and b) do people only see me as that, the girl with 8k followers ? It's mind boggling how social media has shaped the way we perceive other people and ourselves. How a number of followers and likes are used as a measurement of someone's self-worth and value. 
More followers = Better than everybody else ??  That's so messed up. It's downright ridiculous + it's detrimental to our minds and how we live. 

Having a number of people following me is not an achievement nor should it be an achievement to anybody else. Even if you reach hundreds of thousands or even millions of followers.. how can that ever be justified as an achievement ?! (Quick sidenote : I'm speaking in the context of individuals, not brands or companies). Of course there's nothing wrong with wanting to take nice pictures and uploading them, but check yourself. Are you doing it for you or are you doing it to gain acceptance / approval (compliments) from other people and gain followers and ? I think the power that we have in our hands now is really cool, how we're capable of taking amazing pictures and editing them within seconds to make them look professional. It really is cool, but it's sickening when all you care about is how many 'likes' a certain picture gets. It's sickening when you have to use several apps just to make yourself look better in the picture because the idea of being beautiful is looking like Lilymaymac. It's sickening when you think the ideal way of living is what you see on other well known Instagram accounts. 


I'd much rather have someone go through my Instagram and say, 'hey you take really nice pictures' instead of 'wow, that's a lot of likes'. There is so much more to life than wanting to do things just for the sake of getting approval from others. Do it for yourself because you like it, do it to spread positivity and inspiration. I mean how is taking a picture of yourself in front of a mirror showing off your 'assets', making your life better or anyone else's life better ? How is showing the world that you own extravagant things and going to big parties, promoting anything that is good or beautiful in yourself and the world around you ? Is that your idea of being 'blessed' ? Blessed is having amazing people in your life, blessed is having enough food to eat everyday, blessed is having body parts that function perfectly, blessed is being happy about where you are right now. From what I see, a lot of people lack consciousness when it comes to things that really matter. There is so much more to life than being engrossed in social media. 

We're young. We have the power to change the world + ourselves. And yet, we waste our youth by sitting at home, refreshing our Twitter / Instagram feed to see if there's anything new. Instead, learn something new, read a book, watch informative videos (it doesn't even have to be academics, makeup can count as information too haha), gain perspective, build your character, strengthen your relationships with God and other people, be aware of the world around you and live in the present and not in the 2-dimensional world on your iPhone. We shouldn't waste our time obsessing over how pretty that girl looks, or how amazing her life is, or how perfect WE want our lives to seem on social media. It's all superficial and it doesn't benefit us in any way except increase our insecurities and lower our self esteem and shape this image in our head of what 'beauty' and 'perfection' is supposed to be like. 

Social media is not bad if we use it right. What you share online, is not necessarily a representation of what you are, but it is a representation of what you care about. That's just my humble opinion. Do what you do, for yourself. It starts becoming a problem when you feed off approval from other people. It was never a mission or an aim for me to reach a certain amount of followers, I mean I take pictures and post them because I like them, and I enjoy taking beautiful pictures, and it doesn't matter if it gets any likes or not. But people seem to like it, and it's okay. I know I'm not doing it for them. Same way with my blog, I write about things because I want to, because these are my thoughts and I love doing this. I don't do it to gain popularity or anything. It's a bigger compliment to me when someone tells me they read my blog and that my blog gave them ideas or input or inspiration, than someone addressing me and treating me differently because of the amount of followers I happen to have. 

I don't know. I just think we are capable of so so so much more than spending hours and hours peeking at somebody else's life on social media and spending equally as much time thinking how we could make ourselves appear 'perfect' for other people to see. I mean, what do we get from looking at all these selfies / posting selfies of us with a ton of makeup on, honestly ?? Like what are we trying to say ?? Sigh. When we see or meet someone we've been following on Instagram for the first time and we say 'wow, she looks different in real life', like it just proves how judgemental we've become because of social media okay. I'm not attacking anybody in this post, and this serves as a reminder for myself to not get sucked into the evil side of social media. I just wanted to shed some light on this because I feel like this is important and I want people to think about it too. I hope this post was able to spark an interest for you to change the way you use social media and help you see the bigger picture. We can do so much more.  Don't you think so ?


32 comments:

  1. Youre an inspiration. Youre younger than me but your thoughts are always much wiser. Keep on inspiring us, gurl ❤

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    1. Ahhh thank you T.T Really glad you liked the post, thanks for reading ! <3

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  2. took the words out my mouth, can't agree more with this! though i never introduce you as social media famous 😜

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    1. No surprise cause we almost always see eye to eye anyway :p YEAH and I'm glad you don't (partly because I'm not also) or else I'd slap you by now hahahah

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  3. Hey Izza,I've never commented on any of your post before but this post is the greatest one among your other great posts.It is true though,our society really judge us based on those small unimportant things.This has make the world,an even scarier and more judgemental place.It would be great for them to really treat everyone based on who they actually are,it doesn't matter if the person is popular or not,thick or thin,beautiful or not (everyone is beautiful,everyone has their own uniqueness in everything : from looks to almost everything they're doing.Beauty is subjective,it is true when they say : beauty is in the eye of the beholder) but it will be so so so much better if our society looks in the perspective of : beautiful soul is better than beautiful looks.Okay,I'm sorry if my rant here is boring but all that I can say is I am really inspired by you,not just by this post but all of them.

    I really like this post of yours.I'm a shy person and I don't really have that much courage but this post and you just inspired me to just do everything I want.I mean,people and their judgement can't really stand in my way.It's my life after all.

    But,really.Thank you for posting this :D

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    1. Hiii ! Thank you ! I agree with you, if only there was an visible indicator of what kind of person we are that is beyond our physical attributes. Your rant isn't boring at all, and I'm happy that you took the time to write all of that ! It's really to read other people's opinions. The fact that what I wrote was able to inspire you to do the things you want is just so so amazing. Getting teary !! T.T I'm here to support you all the way, you go girl <3

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  4. I cannot disagree any less with this post. Still cannot relate how number of followers can actually relate with the choice whether you want to say Hi with this people or not, to be friend with his/her. Surprisingly, is popularity a quality that you should measure in order for you to make a new friend? And I'm some how disappointed with these bunch of people. I really love to start blogging cause I never miss writing journals. But somehow I feel so insecure with my English writing skills. My grammar is sucks, I tell you. (hehe) What motivates you to write and if someone mind to say hey your English is ugh bad (eventhough I guess yours are great), how will you confront them? Thanks xx. And keep on inspiring!

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    1. Hi Shuhada, thank you for reading ! And I know right, popularity shouldn't be a factor of whether or not you want to be friends with someone. It's really silly. You should start blogging ! Don't feel insecure, because the more you do it, the more you improve. When people tell you that your English isn't perfect, just tell them at least you're doing something about it. They're just being negative people, don't let them stop you. xx

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  5. ive been reading your blogs for almost a year now and this is why i love you (hope thats not creepy hahah) and why you're a really amazing person. couldn't agree more and i stimes am guilty of it. stimes i get so down just bcs of social medias, like people would only have respect for you just bcs your selfies gets thousand likes and its crazy how some ppl would do so much to gain followers and fame and what not lol, anyways you're such an inspiration keep it up izza! x

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    1. Hahahah I love you too ! Thank you so much for reading my blog ! Your support means a lot. Yeah I know how it feels, and that's where root of comparing ourselves with other people begins. Thank you again, will do xx

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  6. Whats so wrong with 'posting selfies with a ton of make up on' ? I agree with a lot in this post, but just that one tiny bit that really put me off . Just because you dont do it does it has to be something wrong ?

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    1. Let me quote what I wrote just so you could read it again : "I mean, what do we get from looking at all these selfies / posting selfies of us with a ton of makeup on, honestly ?? Like what are we trying to say ?? Sigh."

      Do you see the question marks ? Haha. I didn't even say it was 'so wrong'. I just ASKED to self-reflect, what do we get from looking or posting selfies with a ton of makeup on. Make up was the easiest example because a lot of people do it and sometimes for the wrong reason. If I were to change my sentence with posting selfies with a cigarette in between your fingers, would it still put you off ? It's the same concept. I'm asking what do we GET out of it.

      If you get inspiration, good for you. But my whole post is about comparison and self-worth, meaning when I said that. I'm asking, what do WE get from looking. And what do WE get from posting ? To make ourselves feel insecure ? To make others insecure ? To get compliments ? I mean if it makes you confident to post photos like that then by all means go ahead, my whole point is that we can do so much more with our time doing other beneficial things than obsessing over posting and looking and spending time thinking about these selfies. Make up or no make up. Hope I made myself clear :) x

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    2. Oh and in the sentence, I used 'we' instead of 'you'. Meaning I do it too, meaning I am self-reflecting as well. Hope that answers your 'just because you don't do it does it have to be wrong' question. When I'm wrong, I admit. When I realise, I self-reflect to see how I can improve and change. And this was the post for it.

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  7. Couldn't agree more! I got so fed up at one point that I deleted all my photos, unfollowed the negative people and currently restraining myself from refreshing the feed every second so I don't get suck in that kind of community - staying away from negativity and actually living life the way we are supposed to. It's so upsetting when all you want to do is to share moments but people get the wrong message of ''wanting to impress''. I couldn't stop nodding my head at the point where you said people tend to judge everything based on the photos - stresses me out every single time but sigh we can't really please everyone and explain how we are actually living our life to every single person right?Nonetheless, this is why I adore and look up to you Izza (or Kak Izza since you're older than me) But, you go girl! x

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    1. Hi Aliah ! I'm doing what you're doing too, restraining myself from refreshing the feed throughout the whole day. It's like taking a breath of fresh air not being occupied with my phone all the time haha. And true, we can't please everyone so it's best we do what we think is best for ourselves. Thank you so much for reading, and for leaving a comment ! Oh and you can just call me Izza don't worry hahaha. xx

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  8. Izza what happened to chelsea? Are u still watching their match? #justasking

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    1. Chelsea aren't doing so well right now.. haha. But yeah football is one thing I miss having time for. I keep up with their scores and updates about the club but I don't watch their matches anymore. It sucks but ever since entering uni, I stopped watching sigh. Are you a Chelsea fan tooooo ?

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    2. Tak united fan hahahahaha sorry izza :p but seriously chelsea mcm...... Lain this season. They were champions kot last season o.o

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    3. I see ! I pun tak tahu la, dah menang last season, this season main main pulak -_-' I think I'd be more stressed if I was still watching them play ! Hahaha

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  9. heyyyy Izza. :) I am so glad that you wrote a post like this. I strongly agree with you. I love blogging as well and have been wanting to make a post about social media and how it has become so important in our society (but I've been on a super long hiatus because college life and all the assignments ha ha ha). It saddens me that people nowadays think about followers and likes and allow those to define who they are. This post works as a reminder not to allow social media to control or define me. I can't wait for your future posts. You are beautiful inside and out and inspire me in so many ways. Thank you so much! :) Have a great day ahead!
    xx Leanne

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    1. Hili Leanne (such a pretty name you have, btw) ! Thank you for reading, and I'm glad you agree with what I wrote. Oh and high five blogging buddy, I know how it feels about wanting to blog but ugh the responsibilities we have as students can be overwhelming... Once you start again, please leave me a link to it. I'd looove to read more blogs. I can't wait to blog more too, once I find the time. Thank you for the sweet compliment T.T It's the nicest feeling in the world to know that I've inspired someone ! Lots of love. xx

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  10. You kinda brought it upon yourself.

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  11. I guess you won't be posting anymore selfies with/without make up on anymore since we don't get anything from it. Tots agree. Boohoo.

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    1. ^ same person as above I'm sure haha. Glad you agree ! Totz agree but boohoo ? Haha I know you're trying to be mean, or sarcastic but I just find you funny to be honest haha. Thanks for amusing me lolz

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  12. Hi Izza! So after writing this post about how social media is so on and so forth, what do you think we as the younger generation can do to make it a better place and just i guess change the bad to good? :)

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    1. Hii ! I guess just be aware of what you're doing, and why you're doing anything (in real life and on social media). Social media can be good, so make the best of it by NOT being too consumed by it and live in the real world too haha.

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  13. Hi Izza. Do you mind if i ask the price for your daniel wellington watch? :)

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    1. Hi, you can check on www.danielwellington.com/my (the prices are in RM) or on Zalora since they sell them too. Not sure how much they're selling in physical watch shops.

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  14. This post is so inspirational. Pls write your own book. I will be the first one to buy it!!! Oh i wanted to ask you about questionnaire for an interview regarding recruitment, selection and induction. i have to interview any HR at any company. Sikit je questions i for them. haih. How to make an appointment man

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    1. Aww thank you so much !! Haha yeah, it's one of my dreams to write my own book one day but we'll see. Did your lecturer give you a specific topic or just interview about RS in general ? Questions sikit takpa, they'll be doing most of the explanation haha. You can try asking your parents if they work in a company or have friends that work in a company, and interview their HR department, or you can look for companies online that are in your area and email them asking if you could hold an interview. It's easier to make an appointment with the company if you know someone from there !

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  15. Omg its so expensive haha. But they seem worth the price. Thank you Izza!

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