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Monday, 15 September 2014

Attachments

Often when I'm left alone with the thoughts in my head (and this usually happens before I sleep at night or right after I wake up in the morning), that's when I take the time to think and reflect upon myself. 9 times out of 10, I always feel disappointed after I do this. One of the reasons why is because I realize a lot of things about myself that I'm not happy about. When I say this, you must understand that I'm not talking about appearance or anything like that, but the way I lead my life and how I go about with everything. 

I am blinded by the pleasures of worldly things, I forget that all of this is temporary. I get attached to moments, to people, and I end up always being the one that breaks because I don't realize that nothing in this world is meant to last. Not the way you look, not the bouquet of flowers sitting on that table, not the people around you, not you. We need to realize, I need to realize, that we were put on this Earth to do good before we die. And that the life after death is the one that is eternal. That should be our main priority in this life, and that should be the goal we set our hearts and minds to. 

I'd like to include an excerpt from the book I am currently reading ; Reclaim Your Heart by Yasmin Mogahed. It's a brilliant book (as if the crazy good reviews of the book on GoodReads aren't proof enough) and I highly recommend it to everyone. I'm barely halfway through, but when I'm done with it, I'll definitely be writing a review of the book on my blog.

"Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments. As a place where people are with you today and leave or die tomorrow. But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love and strive for what is perfect and permanent. We are made to seek what's eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise : a land that is both perfect and eternal. So the yearning for that type of life is a part of our being. The problem is that we try to find that here. And so we create ageless creams and cosmetic surgery in a desperate attempt to hold on -- in an attempt to mold this world into what is it not, and will never be. And that's why if we live in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That's why this dunya hurts. 

Only when we stop putting our hopes in dunya, only when we stop trying to make the dunya into what it is not -- and never meant to be (jannah)-- will this life finally stop breaking our hearts.

We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependancy is on what is stable and lasting. How can we hope to find constancy if what we hold on to is inconstant and perishing ? 

To attain that state, don't let your source of fulfilment be anything other than your relationship with God. Don't let your definition of success, failure, self-worth be anything other than your position with Him. (Qur'an, 49:13), And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your hand-hold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfilment is unending and never diminishes.

That was just a small part in Yasmin's book (that is a collection of the articles she has written) and that has been my favourite part of the book so far. I was serious when I said I wanted to lead my life a little differently early this month, and that still hasn't changed. 

I'm on my way, I hope you are too.